You Have a Choice Today | Spark Talks Week 4

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A life with God doesn't have to be boring.

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You were made for adventure.

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It can be a pulse pumping, heart pounding life of purpose.

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Join us every weekend for 30 minutes

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of challenge, hope and encouragement

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to guide you on your spiritual adventure.

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- We've all been forced to pause, reset

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and reclaim our futures in light of the chaos of 2020.

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There's always darkness and adventure

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when you're not sure where you're going.

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Join us for Crossroads Weekend Spark Talks

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and hear from people who will challenge you

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with new ideas to ignite your life.

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- Welcome to Crossroads Church, everyone.

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My name is Alli Patterson,

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and we have something really special for you today.

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It's a series called Spark Talks

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and the folks you're going to hear from today

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have been inspired to live their life differently

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because of this crazy year called 2020

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that we're all living through together.

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There's an author and historian

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who has some fascinating things to say today

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about how leaders react differently in crisis if they have faith.

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I'm all ears for that one.

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And I hope you go away inspired and encouraged yourself.

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- I want you to think of something you've always wanted to try

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but haven't because of fear.

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No, I'm not talking about all of you making bread during quarantine.

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And I see you.

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I'm talking about something way outside your comfort zone

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that you've always postponed but continually think of.

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I'm Megs Gelfgot and I teach women to skateboard.

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They find empowerment on a board with four wheels.

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But my story started before that

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and before the empowerment it was one of pushing through

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isolation, depression, overcoming tragedy and crisis.

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I was living the suburbia success story.

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I was a new mom and while I loved my role,

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I felt like I had lost some of my identity along the way.

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I wasn't was from Cincinnati,

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didn't particularly fit in with the mom crowd.

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So I had this crisis of depression and isolation.

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And I knew that I needed something drastic

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to cut through the status quo of my life.

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I had just accepted that this is what it was, it was fine.

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If life was lackluster, I was the only one responsible

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for the quality of my experiences.

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Don't like something, grow from it.

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So I reached for the first regret I could think of:

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learning to skateboard.

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Let me tell you the fears that held me back

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20 years ago from learning, those are amplified as an adult.

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I'm going to break just everything, all of it.

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But skateboarding would be my bridge to reconnect

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with that wildness within myself,

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lost trying to fit into a suburbia,

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tamed using somebody else's definition of success for my life.

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So my rebellion commenced in a parking lot with a skateboard.

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And while I was awful at first, no surprise,

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I laughed and it was awesome and I felt alive.

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#Live laugh love; huh?

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It was great and I felt this acute sensitivity

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that this is what God created me to be.

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Not fearless, just courageous enough to go for it.

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See when we're kids and trying something new,

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we're more concerned with getting hurt.

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As adults, stepping out means we have to deal

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with people's judgments, possibly rejection.

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My rejection came in the form of friends and family.

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"Megs, can you just cool it with this phase?

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Just take up tennis. You're going to hurt yourself."

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I felt empowered because it wasn't conventional.

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I was a mom who was skateboarding around your neighborhoods.

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What's up, Maderia? I see you.

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And it was in this moment that I would not let critics

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marginalize my growing passion

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because they didn't understand it.

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It took me eight visits to a skate park

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before I was physically brave enough to get out of the car.

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And really, what is my worst case scenario?

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Some kid named Spencer tackles me for being a beginner.

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I birthed a child, I can handle Spencer.

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And the day that I smacked my face open

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I remember thinking, "OK, this is -- this is done.

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We're finished with this now."

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There were real consequences.

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But I had a moment to see what I was made of

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cutely, right?

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And bravery was going back out on that ledge,

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complete with a bleeding face

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and a heckling audience of teenage boys.

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I happened to be wearing a shirt that said pray on it.

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And I dropped in on my first bowl that day.

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Of you don't know what it is, Google it later. Check it out.

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Skateboarding had me showing up better in all aspects of my life

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because of the confidence I was building.

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I had grit, I had capacity.

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I was uncovering strength within myself

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that was tied directly to pushing through the struggle

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and sometimes there's some pain.

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My relationship with God found a new level of intimacy.

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I grew up in church.

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God is good.

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I thought of Him as being buttoned up, wearing khakis,

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probably liked smooth jazz.

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Relax, I go hard on some Careless Whisper,

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but I was experiencing a God

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who was meeting the desires of my heart

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I didn't even know that I had.

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He was bringing opportunities, community,

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and adventure squarely in my path.

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And the price of admission was I needed to level up.

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I had to demand more for myself, from my relationships,

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for my attitude, for my work ethic.

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I had progress and momentum.

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I was feeling pretty good, so I did what everybody does:

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start an Instagram account.

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And a funny thing happened, this, you know,

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crazy Amazon ginger from the suburbs,

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my story resonated with people.

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I was getting messages from all over the world

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of people who wanted to escape

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but were never brave enough to take a first step.

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So I began to believe in the larger vision

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of using skateboarding to empower

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as this makeshift community grew.

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Now, things were great, they were going well.

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But life is never all green lights for us.

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It's a Saturday morning passed out at home.

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I'm rushed to the hospital.

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From the time that I walked through the doors to Christ Hospital

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to when they had me on a table putting straps on my heart,

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getting ready to shock it, about 10 minutes.

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They found that day that I had a heart condition,

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Wolff-Parkinson-White syndrome

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and I would undergo heart surgery later that week.

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So as I'm grappling with the implications of this diagnosis

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and thinking about how it would limit my life,

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one of my older sister, Susanna in Arizona,

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she was in a minor car accident on a Friday.

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Sunday they had to call an ambulance,

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take her to the hospital, she was unconscious.

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She would die in the hospital three days later,

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never regaining consciousness.

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Complications from a car accident.

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She would leave behind a four year old daughter

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and a family that was just devastated by her loss.

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I was faced with the fragility of life.

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I was in survival mode.

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You don't have big dreams for yourself when you're just surviving.

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There was a renewed urgency of the now.

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What are you doing now?

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I was not promised tomorrow.

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What are you doing that matters now?

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Fear told me that I was not equipped to lead anything,

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let alone something that had to do with skateboarding.

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But God didn't need me to be the expert in skateboarding

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in order to use me.

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No, He needed my courage to get up in spite of difficulty.

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And I wouldn't let fear make me passive

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because I was not the likely candidate to lead.

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I didn't intend to start a movement,

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but I was willing to see where it went

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because I wasn't in it alone.

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So when we founded Keep Her Wild here in Cincinnati,

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I expected two women to sign up for our Meetup group.

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50 women signed up in the first two days

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with an average age of 35.

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Yeah, the very women I previously felt out of place with,

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it turns out they're pretty awesome.

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Now Keep Her Wild has communities in seven countries

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with retreats designed to get women living

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outside of their comfort zone,

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and more importantly, connected in community.

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It was taking us to places we never could have imagined.

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Things like losing 100 and climbing a mountain,

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skateboarding despite having MS,

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going back to school at 65 years old

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because you want to see what you can do.

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You've still got time.

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Skateboarding was not a phase. It was a lifeline.

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It was the spark that set my life on fire

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and it was having that transformative effect within our community.

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What a way and what a journey from that empty parking lot

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to filming a TED Talk to recording a docu-series on strong women.

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Because if I could learn to kickflip,

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certainly I could handle a couple of people telling me no.

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What? I just need to knock on a few other doors

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and not get bloody in my face? Perfect. I'm on my way.

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What is your skateboard? Because we all need one.

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Hard times are coming. What is your skateboard?

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What have you always wanted to do, but postponed?

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Do it later, do it tomorrow, do it when I lose weight.

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You know what? You're too old, you're not fit enough.

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What would your friends say? Eww.

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So we keep it tucked away,

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a legacy of regret allowing life to manage you.

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Or two, become immune to the fear of someone laughing at you,

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tune out the self-doubt that paralyzes

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and believe completely that you have reservoirs of strength

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to weather any crisis that crosses your door

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and thrive and grow in it because God is going to be with you

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and moving you through the process.

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We don't have to burn in the fires of crisis.

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We can be forged and refined

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and God never abandons us to the flames

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if we're willing to step out of our comfort zone.

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So, your skateboard is out there,

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but it's up to you to find it and go for it.

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You might just find a life transformed

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and a community to call home.

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So be brave, stay wild, and live rad. Thank you.

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Ephesians 2:8 tells us:

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In the middle of a stressful time it can be easy

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to forget these words and instead live like

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maybe we just need to do some work to save ourselves.

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Let's worship today as a reminder

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that God's grace for us is unending.

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- Hi, my name is Stephen Mansfield,

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and I want to talk to you about faith

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and leading in times of crisis.

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There are roles in this world

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that aren't that affected directly by faith.

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A computer programmer might be a better person

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of character, a more patient person if they have faith.

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But how they program a computer

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is not directly affected by their faith.

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However, leadership is not in that category.

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Let me give you a definition of leadership

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and then we can talk about what exactly faith does

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to that role of leadership.

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Leadership is elevating people.

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Leadership is in some form elevating people,

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lifting them out of their circumstances,

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inspiring them to accomplish more.

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And every aspect of that is transformed by faith.

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I'm certainly not saying that

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a person who doesn't have faith can't lead,

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but there's no question that the main characteristics,

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the main traits that lead to leadership greatness

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are faith inspired.

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And this is even more the case during times of crisis

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when most great leadership is measured.

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So let's talk about seven factors, seven features

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of a kind of a faith-based leadership in a time of crisis.

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And I going to tell you right now that

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I'm going to invoke Winston Churchill a great deal.

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He's a hero of mine.

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He tops almost every list of great leaders from the last century.

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And he's a great person to use as a model.

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So what's one of the things, let's say the first thing

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that faith allows us to do in times of crisis?

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Well, the first thing it does is allow us to invoke destiny.

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I'm reminded that when Winston Churchill was appointed

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as the prime minister right before World War II,

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he later wrote, he said, "I felt like I was walking with destiny

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and that all my prior trials

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had been but preparation for this moment."

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That's how we have to think as believers,

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as Christians, as people connected to God,

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because God is a God who sets destinies.

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So a person who is a person of faith in this case

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can do something that a person who's not of faith can't do,

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unfortunately, and that's invoke destiny.

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Most great leaders invoked destiny,

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not only in their own lives, their own souls,

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but also invoke destiny before the people.

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Winston Churchill would stand up before the British people

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during World War II and he would say,

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"We are destined for this fight."

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He believe the British people were destined to fight that

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and he called that out of them.

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So it's not just a technique,

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it's not just a political technique.

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But when you're a person of faith

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leading through a time of crisis, whether it's Coronavirus

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or season of racial upheaval or whatever

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we're dealing with in our generation at a given moment,

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you believe that if you're going through it,

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you're destined for it.

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There's another one and that -- and this is something

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that many leaders don't do.

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I strongly urge you to do it, and that is define victory.

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People battle, people improve for a vision.

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We overcome a pandemic out of vision.

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We do great things.

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We sacrifice great things because somebody

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has painted a vision of victory.

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Winston Churchill used to say to the British people,

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"They will say, this was our finest hour.

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A thousand years from now, they will say

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this was our finest hour

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because this is what victory looks like.

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Victory looks like a free people,

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victory looks like children free to choose their own path.

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Victory looks like this."

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He constantly painted in brilliant verbal colors

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what the future looks like.

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I remember even in my own life when I had a health crisis

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early in my life and someone said,

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"You know, if you overcome this,

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if you'll fight to overcome this,

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you will be so much better off down the road."

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And I stopped giving myself to self-pity

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and rose up against it, believing that the future was great.

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Why? Because someone defined victory.

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The next thing is a leader has to redefine hardship.

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Many people believe that what's hard is evil.

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If it's difficult, it's bad.

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If it's difficult, it's automatically evil

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and should somehow be avoided.

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But that's not the way life works.

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What a great leader's got to do,

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you have to redefine what hardship is.

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You've got to change that sense of suffering.

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It's what every football coach does.

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It's what every trainer does in every sport,

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rather than you thinking, "Oh, if it gets painful

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or hard when I'm lifting weights, I should stop immediately."

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No, what do coaches say?

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"It's the pain that creates the gain."

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The hardship we're going through is the price we pay

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for the victory we're going to have.

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That's nothing more than what is said

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constantly throughout Scripture:

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though all who live godly in Christ Jesus

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shall suffer persecution and hardship.

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You must go through many hardships to enter the Kingdom.

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It's a core principle of life.

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There's a fourth thing that is absolutely essential,

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and that is to determine reality.

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I do a lot of advising of leaders.

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I do a lot of advising of companies.

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One of the hardest things is

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to get people to arrive at situational reality.

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What's the truth? What are the facts?

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I'll go in and consult with a leader or a company

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or a cause, and I'll just ask simple questions.

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Give me the big fat crayon number of how much money you have.

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"Oh, we got plenty of money. No problem. No sweat."

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When you actually get down to it, you find out

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they're in financial crisis and nobody has faced it.

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For a Christian or for a person who's connected to God

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in leadership, all truth is God's truth.

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Sometimes people think that if you're a person of faith,

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well, then you smear over reality

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with kind of a smear of faith.

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No. A person of faith who is connected to God,

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the God who created the world, the God of facts,

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the God of reality says, "No, this is reality.

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And we're going to know it and we're going to proceed from here."

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Whatever the situation is, tell me what it is

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so that we with God can begin there.

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So always attempt to determine situational reality.

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It's absolutely critical.

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One of my favorite is the use of humor.

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Now, I'm fully aware that people without faith can use humor

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and some of them use it very, very well.

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But a great student of humor, a scholar of humor

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once said that humor explores the gap between

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what is and what ought to be.

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And the reason a person of faith can use humor in a great way

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is that they are connected to what ought to be.

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And as I've just said about situational reality,

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they have a strong connection to where things actually are.

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So they live in that gap between the way things are,

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but the way things they ought to be.

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And they know that they're meant to lead people that way.

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Quick story from Winston Churchill.

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Winston Churchill, beginning of World War II,

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is visiting the White House.

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He's been accused by a lot of people in Congress

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of inflating what he needed from the United States:

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material, ships, supplies and so on.

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So he's been accused of hiding things.

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President Roosevelt is his advocate,

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but he's being besieged by Congress who doesn't quite trust him.

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Churchill used to take baths in the middle of the day.

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So one day he's emerging from the bath.

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You have to picture Churchill, pink and bulbous,

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and with a towel wrapped around him, still dripping wet.

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And Roosevelt is asked to be wheeled in to meet with him.

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Roosevelt comes into his room,

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sees that he's emerging from the bath.

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Roosevelt is kind of an aristocratic New Englander.

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He said, "Oh, gosh, wheel me out, wheel me out."

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Churchill goes, "Mr. President," and he pulls the towel away.

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He says, "I have nothing to hide

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from the president of the United States."

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Churchill knew that that would get repeated.

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He knew that Roosevelt himself would tell that story.

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He knew that would circulate all through Congress

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and make the point he was trying to make.

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And those who are humorless often don't have

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the impact they could have because

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they're not helping a people with a smile

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explore the difference between what is and what ought to be.

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The sixth one in my in my little list of seven

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is embody the change.

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Because faith-based leadership in a time of crisis

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is not a matter of urging others

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to do what the leader won't do.

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The leader ought to be the greatest example of those things.

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So if we're asking people at a given time of crisis

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to sacrifice, the leader is the one who has to embody the change.

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Again, Winston Churchill, my favorite illustration,

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he was an exemplar.

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He sacrificed food.

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He taught, he made he made humorous comments and speeches

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about, "I sure will be glad when this war is over,

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I can get back to smoking the good cigars,"

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or whatever kind of castoff comments.

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And everybody was dealing with it.

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Everybody was dealing with a lesser beer,

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lesser quality of food, you know, no rubber, no other things,

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you know, things that we had to go to the war effort.

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But Churchill had fun with that, but he showed the people,

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he allow the people to see that

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he was going through the same deprivation that they were.

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So you embody the change. You live out the values.

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And then finally, for a faith-based leader going through crisis,

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there's this very important principle

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that I call remember the poetry.

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People are spirits. People are alive.

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People need to be inspired.

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People need to have poetry living in their souls.

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So a faith leader, a leader of faith going through time of crisis

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understands that people are living off of inner resources

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as they go through the crisis.

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They need to be inspired. They need to be encouraged.

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They need to be shown the higher vision.

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They need to be reminded of who they are and be able

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to live out powerfully certain visions and certain values.

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When we no longer are feeling the poetry, the life,

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the sacrifice, the devotion.

00:25:28

If we're disconnected from the poetry of it,

00:25:30

then we're not going to be inspirational leaders.

00:25:32

And so we have to remember the poetry.

00:25:35

You are going to be living through crisis.

00:25:37

It comes to every generation.

00:25:39

We're in it now, we'll be in it again.

00:25:42

Our generation is crying out for this kind of leadership:

00:25:46

people of faith who aren't narrow,

00:25:49

but who are passionate and alive and aware,

00:25:52

one hand on God and the other devoted to elevating people.

00:25:56

So be an elevating leader in a time of crisis

00:26:02

and fulfill what you're made to fulfill.

00:26:06

- I hope something in you is sparked today

00:26:09

and God start something new in your life.

00:26:11

I know for me one new thing that I started a long time ago

00:26:15

was giving my money as a way to honor God.

00:26:18

These Spark Talks and everything else we do at Crossroads

00:26:21

is really only made possible because normal people

00:26:23

like you and I choose to give our money here

00:26:25

to what we see God doing in and through this community.

00:26:28

I feel great about that.

00:26:29

And if you're with me, well done.

00:26:32

If you want to join our team of givers,

00:26:35

all you have to do is visit Crossroads.net/give

00:26:38

or pick up the phone that I know is right beside you

00:26:41

and text the word Crossroads to 313131.

00:26:45

And another place that God might just spark something new

00:26:49

is our podcast.

00:26:50

We don't just do weekends. We do podcasts, too.

00:26:52

I actually co-host one with a friend of mine named Latasha

00:26:55

and it's all for women.

00:26:57

So check out the podcast called IKR

00:26:59

and the other great ones that we do too.

00:27:03

- Life is crazier than ever these days.

00:27:05

You could use some hope, some encouragement, fresh ideas,

00:27:08

faith driven perspective and maybe even a little bit of laughter.

00:27:12

We've got you covered.

00:27:14

Parents, you are not alone.

00:27:16

Ladies, it's time for some real talk.

00:27:18

No matter who you are, stop settling.

00:27:21

No matter what stage of life you're in,

00:27:23

Crossroads podcasts have something to offer you.

00:27:26

Find them today on all major podcast platforms.

00:27:43

- Did you know that snakes could fly?

00:27:46

Apparently they can and well, they glide more than they fly,

00:27:51

but what's the difference? They're in the air now.

00:27:54

You would think this news would surprise me, but it's 2020, right?

00:27:57

Hi, my name is Jessica Brown and I'm a morning news anchor.

00:28:01

I tell stories.

00:28:02

Stories that might surprise you,

00:28:04

stories that might inspire you, stories that might

00:28:07

just give you resources that you need to know

00:28:09

and stories that you may not even want to hear.

00:28:12

It's a job that I really love

00:28:13

and it really is a responsibility that I take seriously.

00:28:17

I work mornings, so if you're wondering what that means for me,

00:28:21

I'm up while you're probably in your second dream,

00:28:23

2:30 in the morning, I'm awake.

00:28:27

I'm up getting ready for work and I'm on air at 4:30

00:28:30

for six and a half hours of nonstop news.

00:28:34

It's a long day. It's a lot to take in.

00:28:38

But the mornings are fun because you get to have a little fun.

00:28:41

That's why I like those hours.

00:28:43

You get to have some interaction,

00:28:45

you get to hang out with your coworkers,

00:28:47

and you get to have some moments to smile.

00:28:51

Lately, though, there hasn't been a lot of fun happening.

00:28:55

There's been nothing but, it seems like, doom and gloom.

00:29:00

It feels like the world's ending; doesn't it?

00:29:02

You've got the pandemic.

00:29:04

You've got crisis after crisis, it feels.

00:29:07

And we're in the middle of an election time.

00:29:09

It's a lot to take. I get it.

00:29:11

And I'm someone who likes order.

00:29:12

And I'm not talking about order like

00:29:14

organized shoes in your closet order or color coded order.

00:29:18

I'm talking methodical order.

00:29:20

2020 has been the opposite. It's been messy.

00:29:24

Just when we're starting to kind of navigate this,

00:29:27

trying to figure things out.

00:29:29

We're kind of getting an idea of how

00:29:31

things are going to look with this pandemic,

00:29:34

boom, George Floyd happens.

00:29:38

That one hit me in the gut.

00:29:39

That one was heavy for me in an already heavy time.

00:29:44

The weekend of the protests,

00:29:46

the first round of protests that happened in the city,

00:29:48

I remember being at home and being emotionally depleted.

00:29:58

It was the worst.

00:29:59

I made up my mind right then and there.

00:30:00

I said, "You know what? I got to turn it off.

00:30:02

I need a break, too.

00:30:05

I'm not going to work on Monday.

00:30:06

No one's going to make me feel bad about it.

00:30:08

I'm not going into work on Monday.

00:30:10

I can't go into work on Monday."

00:30:12

I felt just so spent Sunday night.

00:30:16

I was on the verge of calling my boss to be like,

00:30:19

"I'm not coming in."

00:30:20

And I felt this nudge that I needed to show up.

00:30:26

I just felt like I needed to make sure I was there.

00:30:29

I'm the only black person on air

00:30:32

in the mornings on my show, my small team.

00:30:35

I needed to be there.

00:30:37

I needed to be there to ask questions.

00:30:40

I needed to be there to give context.

00:30:41

I needed to be there to give, you know, background

00:30:44

that maybe might have been missed. Don't know.

00:30:46

But I know for me, I felt like I needed to show up.

00:30:51

So I walked into work on that Monday

00:30:52

and I'm not going to lie, I didn't have a great day.

00:30:54

I sometimes couldn't even get the words out

00:30:58

because how many times can I see

00:31:00

that video of that officer's knee in George Floyds' neck?

00:31:04

How many times am I going to see that video

00:31:05

for six and a half hours?

00:31:07

It was difficult, but I'm, to be honest,

00:31:12

I'm super grateful I was there.

00:31:14

There were so many moments where I had to give context,

00:31:18

that I gave context and I gave history.

00:31:21

And I've gotten even some responses from so many viewers

00:31:23

that were grateful to hear that point of view

00:31:26

that they never heard before.

00:31:27

I was grateful to be there, even though I don't want to be there.

00:31:32

I needed to be a voice in that room and I'm glad I was.

00:31:35

Did I take Tuesday off?

00:31:36

"Jess, did you take Tuesday off? You must have."

00:31:38

No, Tuesday I went to work. Wednesday I went to work.

00:31:40

Thursday I went to work. Friday. I went to work.

00:31:43

I felt like I needed to be there.

00:31:44

One thing I will say I did on Friday,

00:31:46

I started to unplug social media.

00:31:50

You know, if there's something that's triggering you,

00:31:52

something that's making you feel panicky, edgy,

00:31:56

that's something you have to turn off.

00:31:57

That is the sign to unplug.

00:32:01

And I know it might be weird for a news anchor

00:32:03

to tell you to unplug receiving information,

00:32:06

but do it if you're at your limit.

00:32:09

I'm big on getting information.

00:32:11

I'm big on seeking out information.

00:32:13

I do not believe in living in a bubble

00:32:14

that nothing's happening in this world.

00:32:16

You've got to know what's going on in this world.

00:32:18

But you also need to be equipped to handle

00:32:20

when it's being thrown at you from 17 different directions.

00:32:23

I remember when I mentioned that

00:32:25

I did not want to go to work that day and went anyway.

00:32:29

If it was up to me, you know, I would be --

00:32:31

I'd be in bed and having my moment.

00:32:33

But I felt like I needed to show up because

00:32:36

I really feel like it was bigger than me

00:32:38

why I was feeling that nudge to be there.

00:32:41

And if you are having a day where you're like,

00:32:44

I just can't go to work or I can't show up for this

00:32:47

or I can't do this, and you're feeling that nudge to be there,

00:32:53

there could be a bigger reason than you can imagine

00:32:56

that God has for you in that moment.

00:32:58

And you don't know why, you know, these things happen.

00:33:02

Why do I have to be uncomfortable in this moment

00:33:04

or why am I being pushed to do that?

00:33:06

Sometimes you've got to fight through it

00:33:07

for a bigger purpose beyond you.

00:33:09

And I'm here for the purpose.

00:33:11

or what impact that may have had.

00:33:14

I mean, I know some.

00:33:15

I've gotten some responses from some folks

00:33:17

who learned some things they didn't know

00:33:20

just from their own experience just because I showed up that day.

00:33:23

So, I mean, I'm glad I was there.

00:33:26

And maybe you'll be glad you push through too.

00:33:32

- Sometimes the world just feels like

00:33:33

it's spinning all around us.

00:33:35

I felt that way myself a lot this year.

00:33:38

That's exactly why we wrote the next song

00:33:40

that we're going to sing together, to say out loud,

00:33:43

to remind ourselves and to tell God,

00:33:45

"We trust You to do things that we are not capable

00:33:48

of doing and we know that You are able."

00:37:22

I don't know about you, but I'm actually really grateful

00:37:24

for some of the stories I've heard and some of the people

00:37:27

that have spoken during our Spark Talks this year,

00:37:30

but it doesn't have to end here.

00:37:32

If you missed one or you heard one that you love

00:37:34

and you want to share it with friends,

00:37:35

you can go to Sparktalks.net

00:37:38

and find every talk you've heard during the series.

00:37:41

Share away.

00:37:43

The best way to engage with Crossroads on a regular basis

00:37:47

is actually to download the Crossroads app.

00:37:49

I'm in there every day.

00:37:50

You can read the Bible with our community.

00:37:52

You can pray for one another.

00:37:54

It's just a great way to have a part

00:37:56

of your spiritual journey happening right in your phone,

00:37:59

right in your hand all the time.

00:38:02

If you want to engage with a real person in our community,

00:38:05

you can go to Sparktalks.net and actually find

00:38:08

a real guide to walk you into the next part of your adventure.

00:38:13

And I don't know what that's going to be.

00:38:14

I don't know what 2020 holds, but I feel better prepared

00:38:18

as a result of the Spark Talks series.

00:38:20

So join us next week for whatever is coming next.

00:38:26

- Thanks for watching.

00:38:27

and I want to help you go on your spiritual adventure.

00:38:31

We have a community of people that gathers online

00:38:33

to go on an adventure together through processing

00:38:36

the weekend message and applying it week in and week out.

00:38:40

We call this weekend follow up groups

00:38:42

and you can join one today from anywhere you are

00:38:44

by heading to Crossroads.net/onlinecommunity.

00:38:48

It might just be the thing that takes you

00:38:49

to the next place on your adventure with God.

00:38:52

We'll see you next week.

	Megs Gelfgot: "We Need Adventure More Than Ever”	1:03
	Worship: Amazing Grace	11:17
	Stephen Mansfield: “Leadership is Elevating People”	15:29
	Jess Brown: "Navigating Through Heavy News"	27:33
	Worship: Trust	33:53

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