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- Today we're tackling a
phenomenon that's making
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national headlines and
hitting close to home.
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It's called deconstruction.
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It's a disassembling of
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previously held
beliefs about God.
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And let me make this
crystal clear right up front,
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Crossroads is a safe place and
it's a judgment free community.
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And if you're in this space of
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deconstructing, you
are in the right place.
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In fact, before
I go any further,
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if I can help you with
this issue or any other
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in my life, this is my
actual email address.
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Email me and I will
respond back to you.
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See, at Crossroads
we're a new kind of church,
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a community that you can
join no matter where you live
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or what you believe.
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Stick around at the end of
this video for more on that.
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Well, there are plenty of people
upset about deconstruction
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and loads of articles and
videos railing against it.
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This isn't that, because it
turns out that deconstructing
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is also deeply unsettling
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to the people experiencing
it for themselves.
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I mean, just think, what
if one day you woke
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up and you no longer
believed, like, any of it.
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That God's real,
that faith is possible,
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that you have
a purpose in life.
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What if the faith that once felt
like the rock solid foundation
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under your feet just washed out
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like sand pulled
out in the tide?
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This is happening everywhere,
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but there's actually
two outcomes.
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See, some people
question their beliefs,
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deconstruct them,
and they never stop.
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It's like somebody who
sets out to remodel a house,
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rips out the kitchen, then
the bathroom, then the roof,
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then the walls
and the foundations
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until there's nothing
left but a hole in the sand
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and a pile of rubble
by a dumpster.
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Others, and I put
myself in this camp,
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question their beliefs,
deconstruct them,
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and actually end up with
more faith and a richer life.
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It's like a house remodel.
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We deconstruct what was
there, usually something
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that was built a long time ago
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in order to build
back something better.
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I, in my life, have
deconstructed
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pieces of old beliefs.
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In fact, I'll tell you about
some of those in a few minutes,
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and I've actually found a
richer life in a deeper faith.
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I've also personally
seen friends shipwrecked
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who end up at the other
end of the spectrum,
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not with a better life,
but with an emptier life
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and the tragic loss
of joy, hope, and faith.
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So what determines
whether you end up
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with a stronger
faith or none at all?
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I think it all comes down to
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which kind of God
are you seeking?
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And there's
actually two types of
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God that people go looking for.
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One of them will
absolutely fail you.
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The other will lead to life.
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Now I'm going to unpack
those two types of gods
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and the faith behind
them in just a few minutes.
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But I need to make this clear,
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I believe deconstruction
is a practice
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that God actually
wants for all of us.
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He wants us to
question, search, and ask,
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and find better
beliefs than the
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one we built our
life on right now.
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In fact, I'm willing to bet
that there are some things
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God wants to deconstruct
about how you currently
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understand and interact
with Him, and me too.
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This episode is going to
give you the framework
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to take apart the false beliefs
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and end up with
more faith, more joy,
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and greater confidence
in God's existence
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and goodness towards you.
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This episode is
for you if you've
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ever wanted a stronger faith,
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or if you've had
increasing doubts,
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or if you have friends or
family who are deconstructing,
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it's going to help you
understand what's happening,
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why and what I
believe God intends.
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By the way, at the
end of this video,
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we'll be taking
communion together.
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Communion is
this ancient practice
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that usually involves
bread and wine.
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But if you don't have bread
and you don't have wine,
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don't worry, just grab
something to drink
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and something to eat,
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and we'll do this
together at the end.
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For now, I want to pray for
us before we go any further.
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God, would You be with us
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and would You reveal
Yourself to us today,
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Your truth, who You really are?
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We want deeper
faith, a richer life.
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Give us that. Amen.
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Now the thing about
deconstruction is it's not new.
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It's been happening for as long
as Christianity has existed.
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In fact, Jesus actually
predicted it would happen
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in one of his most
famous parables.
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Maybe you've heard this before.
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It's from Matthew 7:24, it says,
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Now hang with me for a
second on this, hang with me.
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I like Jesus and
what He teaches,
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but can I be honest
for a second?
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This metaphor of
the rock and the sand
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is kind of dumb, right?
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I mean, this sand is
kind of obviously not this.
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By the way, plastic, real
rock, plastic, real rock.
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Okay, now we've got that.
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This is obvious, right?
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This sand right
here, that's sand,
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there we go, is very
different from this, right?
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I mean, who would intentionally
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build their life on sand?
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Nobody.
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Was He -- I think that
Jesus is actually talking
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about something a little
bit more nuanced here.
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See, because nobody sets
out and anchors their life
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into something unstable.
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But many of us
unintentionally end up
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anchoring ourselves
to this kind of sand,
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the kind that's been
compacted together over time,
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the kind that
looks like it's rock,
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which is what this
is, this is a paver,
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literally sand smashed together.
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See, the problem is, Jesus
says the winds will come,
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the rains will come,
and they'll beat on that.
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And when they do, it breaks.
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It doesn't actually hold up.
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Now, the winds are
questions and doubts.
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They're the things that
Jesus says will come our way.
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And I want to be clear,
He says, the key is
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to sink deep foundations
into the rock, not the sand.
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And the rock is His words.
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Now a great
question to ask then is:
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which words, Jesus?
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Now here for sure, I
think Jesus is saying,
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"Build your life on
all of My words."
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But I also think there's
something more specific,
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if you look just before
this in Matthew 7.
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Just a few verses
earlier, Jesus says this:
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Jesus says, "Found
your life on My Word.
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In My Word is this. Seek Me."
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God says, "Seek me.
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Ask Me a million
questions and never stop."
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That's how you
drill into the rock.
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That's how you get there.
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See, asking questions
about God is good. It isn't.
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And maybe you just
need to hear that today.
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Do you know what a group
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that discourages question
asking is called? A cult.
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If you encounter a
group like that run,
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literally run away.
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See, at Crossroads,
we welcome questions.
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One of the hallmarks
of our community
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is the lack of
needing to believe
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certain things to belong.
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We actually say that
we major on the majors
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and we minor on the minors.
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You can go to our website
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and read our
statement of beliefs.
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It'll take you three
and a half minutes.
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Why? Because there's
mystery and wonder in God.
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That's what we're
going to unpack today.
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And it's amazing, you
can build your life on Him.
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Jesus says, "Ask Me
questions. Ask Me questions.
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Build your life on
seeking Me. Ask away."
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You know the question
that's been haunting me lately,
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probably the same as you,
where do eels come from?
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Where do they come from?
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My wife, just a few
weeks ago, she literally
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she walked downstairs in
the morning, like pre-coffee,
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and she just hit me
with this question
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out of the blue, no warning.
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She goes, "Hey, where
do eels come from?"
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And I was like, "Um, maybe
you skipped like science
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and health class
in the fifth grade.
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I can tell you where
eels come from.
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When a when a mommy
eel and a daddy eel
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love each other very, very much,
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and they're married, obviously,
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then they do a special
like eel hug situation.
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And then nine months
later, a baby eel is hatched,
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possibly born, not really sure.
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The point is, it's easy.
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Did you skip fifth grade?"
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Here's the thing, do
you know that scientists
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actually don't know
where eels come from?
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No, it turns out all that
we know about eels
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is that old eels get
this, I promise, is true.
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You can Google this.
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Old eels swim out to
the Bermuda Triangle,
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which is also called
the Sargasso Sea,
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and then baby eels swim back.
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That's all we know.
It's a complete mystery.
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There's actually some
scientists now who believe
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that all eels in
the entire world
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are actually the same species,
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just at different life stages.
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Like they're a saltwater animal,
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and then they become
a freshwater animal,
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and then a saltwater
animal again.
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But no one knows.
It's a complete mystery.
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Now what if I told
you that because of
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all this mystery and
unanswered questions about eels
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that I've decided that I
no longer believe in eels.
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After all, my fifth
grade understanding
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of health class and
science or whatever,
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it can't answer
my new questions.
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And get this, even the
world's leading experts on eels
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actually have more
questions than answers.
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So I'm out. I'm out
on eels, everybody.
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This is the day I announce it.
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No more eels for me. I'm done.
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See, this is exactly how
many of us treat faith
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and why we lose it.
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See, we stop seeking
God and fifth grade
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and then life happens
when we're 25
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and our fifth grade
faith utterly fails us.
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And yes, I don't
mean this harshly,
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but of course it does.
Of course it does.
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You weren't meant to
keep that fifth grade faith.
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You weren't meant to
have a fifth grade faith at 25,
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and you aren't meant to
have a 25 year old faith at 55.
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See, every
deconstruction begins with
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a question that we can't answer
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with our current
knowledge of God.
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Sometimes it's a question
that hits us in the face
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after the failing of
a spiritual leader.
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Like, "Man, how can
somebody who says
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they follow a loving
God act with such hatred,
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such abuse, such selfishness?"
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Sometimes it's a question
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that comes from
a scientific insight.
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You know, "How can I trust
the reliability of the Bible
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when its own account
of the creation story
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disagree with each other?"
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Which, by the way,
they do Genesis 1 and 1.
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How do you reconcile this
with what you're learning?
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But see, rather than digging
through the tough questions,
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rather than trying
to advance our faith,
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advance our understanding,
we just give up.
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It fails my fifth grade
understanding. I'm out.
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Hey, back the message
in just a second, but first,
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I want to try
something really quick.
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I'm going to talk about
giving for only 30 seconds
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and explain why it matters. Go.
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So in Philippians 4:19, it says,
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"When we're obedient
to give back to the Lord,
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He is faithful to
supply all our needs."
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And I know at the end of
the year a lot of people give
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and other people think
giving is all about like
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I give to get.
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But that's not it at all.
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See, the fundamental
basis behind tithing
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is simply showing God
that we're submitting to Him.
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The best way to
expose that submission
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is by using our money.
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The Bible talks about money
in correlations to our heart.
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And that's what it is
all about, our hearts.
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If you want to show your heart,
if you want to take a step
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and say yes to God in this way,
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go to Crossroads.net/give.
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Do you remember
when you were a kid
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how you asked a
million questions,
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how you ask whatever you
were honestly wondering.
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You probably
pestered your parents,
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your favorite word was probably
why, why, why, why, why, why.
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That's my kids'
favorite question.
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It gets very annoying.
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Well see what happens
for most of us as we age
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is that we learn the rules.
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We know which
questions are okay to ask
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and which questions to avoid.
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And then slowly,
somewhere we just
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stop asking the big
questions altogether.
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In the early '90s NASA
commissioned a study.
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It was just trying to
measure creative potential
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of scientists and engineers.
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So they started
with a diverse group
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of 1600 preschoolers,
and they followed them.
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Now, fascinatingly, they
found that 98% of preschoolers
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were actually considered
creative geniuses.
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This is incredible.
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So they follow the same
group, but they found
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that a grade school only
30% of those same children
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were still considered
creative geniuses.
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By high school was only 12%.
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And by adulthood, only 2%
were considered geniuses.
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So, what happened?
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Well, they found that
they tried to memorize
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textbook answers in school
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instead of following
the curiosity
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that comes from
a great question.
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They were inadvertently trained
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through their
childhood education
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to just memorize answers,
not ask the questions.
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You know not
coincidentally, there's a story
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where Jesus was
talking about what type of
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person of faith is the greatest.
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How do you have the
greatest faith ever, Jesus?
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And this was His answer,
Matthew 18:3, He said:
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This is it, this is the
critical fork in the road
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that will determine
whether you gain faith
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or whether you lose it entirely.
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See, many of us learned
in church growing up,
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just like in school, to
memorize the answers,
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don't ask the questions.
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We inadvertently learn
faith in the first kind of God,
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the textbook God.
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And I have to tell you, the
textbook God will fail you.
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He's sand, just compacted
together to look like rock.
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The textbook god is a list of
formal answers to memorize.
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He's sort of like a
spiritual professor,
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just kind of waiting to
judge the correctness
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of all of our answers to
the important questions.
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Now just which
questions are important
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and exactly what
the right answers are
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is much debate about
that in the theological world
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because rather
inconveniently, the Bible
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doesn't actually have an
annotated list of all of them.
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In fact, it turns out the Bible
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actually isn't a list
of answers at all.
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It's a collection
of messy stories
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about a lot of messy people
over thousands of years
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who never quite get
the answers right at all.
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But God seems to
love them anyway.
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So, why do people
follow the textbook God?
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Why did they do this?
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The answer is because
it's safe, it's easy.
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There's no real struggle
or wrestling involved.
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You just pick an
edition that you like
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and then you stick with it.
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You just kind of try to
survive your entire life
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mentally agreeing to
the same set of questions.
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And if you can do that
at the end of your life,
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you get the really nice
mansion in heaven.
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That's kind of the idea, right?
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But here's the problem
with the textbook God.
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While he's neat, while
he's easy to understand,
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while he's nice and
orderly, he's also uninspiring.
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There's nothing to
him, he's uninteresting.
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He's not transcendent.
There's no mystery.
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There's no wonder.
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And because of that, there's
no power beyond your own.
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See the textbook
god lacks all of that.
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He will fail you because
those answers aren't complete.
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They can't contain God.
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The good news is there's
another God to seek,
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the God that I believe in,
the God that I think is real,
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the transcendent God.
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He's not the textbook God,
he's the transcendent God.
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And he's only found
through a lifetime of seeking,
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just like Jesus said,
"Seek and you will find."
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But here's the thing, don't
seek for a while and stop.
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00:16:04
No, no, seek and never stop.
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00:16:07
This is actually how
all of the ancient hearers
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00:16:09
of this faith spent their
entire lives, seeking God.
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00:16:12
David, you might have heard
him in the Old Testament.
-
00:16:15
He was the guy
who defeated Goliath.
-
00:16:16
He was King David.
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00:16:17
He said that his
greatest ambition in life
-
00:16:20
was to seek God, to
ask so many questions
-
00:16:23
that he might just one day
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00:16:24
get to understand
more about him.
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00:16:27
Psalm 27:4 said:
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00:16:43
David says, "If I have
everything I could have
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00:16:45
of everything there is
to pursue, the one thing
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00:16:48
that I want is to seek God."
-
00:16:52
I'm telling you, if God
seems flat to you right now,
-
00:16:56
if God seems uninteresting,
boring, two dimensional,
-
00:16:58
it's time to start
asking more questions.
-
00:17:01
And not just the easy
ones, not the simple ones,
-
00:17:05
not the ones that are
that are just kind of safe
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00:17:08
and sanitary, but
the real questions.
-
00:17:10
The ones that I
know that you have.
-
00:17:12
The questions like, "God,
when that thing happened,
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00:17:14
where were you?
-
00:17:16
God, how come I can't reconcile
-
00:17:18
these two things together?
Help me understand."
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00:17:21
Ask him the real questions
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00:17:23
that transcend
your understanding
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00:17:25
and allow room for
the transcendent God.
-
00:17:29
Don't clean them up.
-
00:17:31
Don't ask sanitary questions.
-
00:17:33
But here's the thing, don't
ask them half heartedly
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00:17:36
and expect to find answers.
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00:17:38
You have to put in the work.
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00:17:40
It's a lifelong pursuit.
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00:17:41
It's not a momentary thing.
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00:17:43
Proverbs 2:3-5 says:
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00:17:57
Then, see, you
need to look for it
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00:17:59
as if it's hidden
treasure and it was worth
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00:18:02
putting in all of the
effort required to find it.
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00:18:05
A lifelong pursuit.
-
00:18:07
See, I promise,
because God promises,
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00:18:10
it will be harder than
Googling an instant answer.
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00:18:13
And I know as humans,
especially right now
-
00:18:15
in this age of
instantaneous information,
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00:18:17
we are deeply and
increasingly uncomfortable
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00:18:20
with answers that
take time to find.
-
00:18:22
We are uncomfortable
with mystery and wonder
-
00:18:25
and transcendence.
-
00:18:26
We have to know now,
and that's killing faith.
-
00:18:30
And please hear me.
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00:18:31
I'm not saying -- I'm
not saying, not saying
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00:18:35
to check your brain at the
door when you seek God.
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00:18:38
I don't think this
means you have to be
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00:18:40
shallow minded and naïve.
-
00:18:41
What a cruel trick that
God would be playing
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00:18:44
if you wanted us
to stop our brains,
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00:18:46
the brains that He made
that are naturally growing
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00:18:49
and maturing and
getting more logical.
-
00:18:51
What I am saying is
follow that increasing logic.
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00:18:55
Just for a second,
doesn't it make sense that
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00:18:58
if there were an
omniscient superintelligence,
-
00:19:01
that that Superintelligence
would vastly exceed
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00:19:04
my mental capacities
and understanding?
-
00:19:07
And as such, wouldn't it
be reasonable to conclude
-
00:19:10
that while there would be pieces
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00:19:12
of this transcendent God
that I could understand,
-
00:19:14
He wouldn't fit
neatly into a textbook,
-
00:19:16
that there would
be many more things
-
00:19:18
that would exceed my capacity,
-
00:19:20
many more questions
than answers?
-
00:19:22
See the textbook faith
and the textbook god
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00:19:25
will fail you, but the
transcendent God never will.
-
00:19:29
He never will.
-
00:19:31
Now, how do you
seek that sort of God?
-
00:19:33
What are we getting at here?
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00:19:34
There's only one
way: it's humility.
-
00:19:38
It's humility, it's the
thing I think maybe
-
00:19:40
we're lacking more than
anything in our modern world.
-
00:19:42
And the court of humility
is the capacity to not know,
-
00:19:47
to seek and to allow room
-
00:19:49
for more than you can
understand, for the mystery,
-
00:19:51
for the wonder, for
the transcendence.
-
00:19:53
I remember a number of
years ago we had a person
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00:19:57
we were working
with at Crossroads,
-
00:19:58
kind of like almost in like
a consultant sort of way,
-
00:20:01
helping us with some stuff.
-
00:20:02
And this person was
brilliant, super smart.
-
00:20:04
They were great.
-
00:20:06
But Brian noticed something
-
00:20:08
that he called out
in a meeting once.
-
00:20:10
So this person had no
ability to say, "I don't know."
-
00:20:14
Whenever we ask them
anything about God, about life,
-
00:20:17
about how church
works, about cooking,
-
00:20:20
about, I mean,
literally anything,
-
00:20:22
they always had an answer.
-
00:20:23
I remember Brian
in a meeting saying,
-
00:20:25
"You know, I think it's time
to stop working with him."
-
00:20:28
We said, "Well, why?"
-
00:20:29
He said "Anybody who is
unable to say, 'I don't know, '
-
00:20:33
is a person we can't trust."
-
00:20:36
I contrast that with
an experience I had
-
00:20:40
in Turkey and in Greece.
-
00:20:41
I got to take this trip
studying the life of Paul,
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00:20:44
who navigated
through those countries,
-
00:20:46
with one of the world's
leading archeologists
-
00:20:49
and theologians,
-
00:20:50
a guy named Bob,
who's become my friend.
-
00:20:52
And I remember being
there and asking Bob
-
00:20:54
all these questions.
-
00:20:56
And Bob, this brilliant
guy, the guy who could say,
-
00:21:00
"I know the answer,
I have the answer."
-
00:21:02
Bob, who has spent
decades upon decades
-
00:21:04
on the ground studying
scripture in its context.
-
00:21:07
You know one of
Bob's phrases he said
-
00:21:09
more often than anything else?
-
00:21:11
He said, "I don't know.
That's a really good question."
-
00:21:15
And I think about that and
I think we need more Bobs.
-
00:21:19
More of us need to
have this ability to say,
-
00:21:22
"I don't know," and not feel
like we're failing at faith.
-
00:21:26
And let me just
say to you clearly,
-
00:21:27
in case you need somebody
to say it to you directly,
-
00:21:29
if you have some
"I don't knows,"
-
00:21:32
if you have some
unanswered questions,
-
00:21:35
you're not failing at faith.
-
00:21:36
I think you're
finding the real God.
-
00:21:37
If you're finding the
God who transcends
-
00:21:39
your understanding, what
you're exercising is humility,
-
00:21:41
and that humility is key.
-
00:21:43
See, it's the opposite of pride.
-
00:21:45
Pride is saying, "I
know all the answers.
-
00:21:47
I have all the answers.
They're all correct.
-
00:21:49
I know them. Please
don't question them."
-
00:21:51
This is actually
the biggest thing
-
00:21:53
that had to be
deconstructed in me,
-
00:21:55
that God has had to take
out of me on my journey
-
00:22:00
is the idea that God
is a list of answers
-
00:22:02
and I can know them all.
-
00:22:04
I used to listen to a
show, like a radio show,
-
00:22:06
called the Bible Answer Man.
-
00:22:08
It was a show that
people would call in
-
00:22:10
and ask questions about
this thing or whatever,
-
00:22:11
and the guy always
had an answer.
-
00:22:13
And I thought
that'd be pretty cool.
-
00:22:14
And I noticed
something about me.
-
00:22:16
So, I had a knack for
explaining stuff to people
-
00:22:19
in a way that made sense.
-
00:22:20
It would show up
in group projects.
-
00:22:22
In high school and in
college and my fraternity,
-
00:22:25
I was put in
leadership positions
-
00:22:27
and was asked to explain things.
-
00:22:28
Even teach things at
work this showed up.
-
00:22:31
People started to ask
me to teach the Bible.
-
00:22:33
It was a great feeling because
I have the answers. Whoo.
-
00:22:37
But somewhere in it,
I started to lose God.
-
00:22:41
I lost the mystery
and the grandeur
-
00:22:43
and the transcendence of God.
-
00:22:44
He became a list of answers.
-
00:22:46
He became a sermon
outline, a video script.
-
00:22:49
He became an email
to give a tight answer to.
-
00:22:53
What ended up happening
is that God just felt
-
00:22:55
small, like flat,
two dimensional.
-
00:22:59
You see a god who can
be contained in my mind
-
00:23:01
and my own understanding,
-
00:23:03
it turns out he's not that big.
-
00:23:06
And I actually had
to step back from that
-
00:23:08
and deconstruct the
false belief that had been
-
00:23:10
in the background of
my faith for decades
-
00:23:12
because it no longer worked.
-
00:23:14
Like a kitchen remodel,
I had to rip it out
-
00:23:17
and return to scripture
for the true design
-
00:23:19
to build back something better.
-
00:23:21
And you know what I found?
-
00:23:22
I found a better God,
the transcendent God,
-
00:23:25
the God who is thankfully,
thankfully way bigger
-
00:23:30
than my ability to understand
and categorize Him.
-
00:23:33
See, when I went looking
for Him, hunting for Him
-
00:23:35
like silver and hidden
treasure, I found Him
-
00:23:38
and you can too.
-
00:23:40
But you have to understand
who you're going to find.
-
00:23:43
This is how God describes
Himself, His transcendence,
-
00:23:46
Isaiah 55:
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00:24:01
God says this actually
many places in scripture.
-
00:24:04
Romans 11, he says:
-
00:24:19
God is very clear.
-
00:24:20
He says, "Listen, I love you,
-
00:24:23
but I'm so much bigger than you.
-
00:24:26
I'm so much more than you
can possibly understand."
-
00:24:28
Listen, has God become a
list of correct answers to you?
-
00:24:31
Have you lost the
mystery of God?
-
00:24:35
Here's good news:
-
00:24:36
you will never get
to the bottom of God.
-
00:24:39
It's amazing news.
-
00:24:40
See if you can understand
God, you're Him.
-
00:24:43
I don't know about you, but
I want a transcendent God
-
00:24:46
because there's
things in my life
-
00:24:48
that I need to be transcended.
-
00:24:50
There's problems that I
don't know how to solve.
-
00:24:52
There's roadblocks
that I keep hitting
-
00:24:54
over and over and over again.
-
00:24:56
And I don't want a god
who has my understanding.
-
00:24:58
I need a god who goes beyond me,
-
00:25:01
a god who transcends me.
-
00:25:02
Because if there's
a transcendent God,
-
00:25:04
maybe He can transcend my life.
-
00:25:06
Maybe He can take
me to a new place.
-
00:25:09
The key question
for you to consider:
-
00:25:11
Do you want to live in a
world of airtight answers,
-
00:25:15
or are you open to the
mystery, the transcendence,
-
00:25:19
the power, and
the wonder of God?
-
00:25:23
If you have a
bucket called "God"
-
00:25:26
and your questions
don't fit in that bucket,
-
00:25:29
don't throw out the
bucket, get a bigger one.
-
00:25:32
That's what I'm saying.
-
00:25:34
See, when Jesus came
no one could imagine a god
-
00:25:37
who would come and
sacrifice himself for them all.
-
00:25:41
Gods demanded
sacrifices from people.
-
00:25:44
They didn't sacrifice
themselves for people.
-
00:25:46
But Jesus transcended
their understanding of God.
-
00:25:53
He said, "I'm not asking
for something from you,
-
00:25:55
I have something for you.
I have something for you.
-
00:25:58
I'm the guy who
transcends everything
-
00:26:01
you've ever thought,
everything you've ever imagined,
-
00:26:03
every limitation you've
ever put on your life.
-
00:26:06
I transcend all of that. I
came for you. For you."
-
00:26:12
This is the act we
remember in communion.
-
00:26:15
And there's something
here that is mysterious,
-
00:26:18
that is powerful,
that is transcendence,
-
00:26:21
that maybe you've lost.
-
00:26:24
I want to take communion
together with you right now,
-
00:26:27
so go ahead and
grab something to eat
-
00:26:29
and something to drink.
-
00:26:32
Now, as we take
communion, I want to put up
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00:26:34
some of the verses that
describe this transcendent God,
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00:26:37
the two that we just
looked at and some more.
-
00:26:39
I want you to read these
words as you take communion,
-
00:26:42
remembering who God is,
how much bigger He is than you,
-
00:26:47
and why that is fantastic news.
-
00:26:51
Specifically, I want
you to call to mind
-
00:26:52
the situation in your
life, I know you have one,
-
00:26:55
where you need God to transcend
-
00:26:58
what you think is possible.
-
00:27:00
I want you to hold
that in your mind.
-
00:27:01
As you take
communion, just tell Him,
-
00:27:03
"God, I believe You are
the transcendent God
-
00:27:07
and that You can transcend
all of my understanding,
-
00:27:11
all of what I
think is possible."
-
00:27:14
A communion involves two
things: the bread and the wine.
-
00:27:17
When Jesus did this,
it was the Last Supper.
-
00:27:19
It was literally the last meal
-
00:27:20
He ever had with
his disciples on Earth.
-
00:27:23
And he took the bread
that had been on the table
-
00:27:25
and He broke off a hunk
of it and He held it up
-
00:27:28
and went way past what
they could understand.
-
00:27:29
In the moment they had no
idea what He was talking about.
-
00:27:32
He said, "This is My body
which is broken for you.
-
00:27:37
Every time you gather,
-
00:27:39
I want you to do this
and remembrance of Me."
-
00:27:44
This is the body of Christ,
-
00:27:46
the food you're
holding in your hand,
-
00:27:48
it's the body of
Christ broken for you.
-
00:27:50
Let's eat in remembrance of Him.
-
00:28:08
As I'm eating, I'm just thinking
about the spots in my life,
-
00:28:10
because I have
them just like you do,
-
00:28:12
where I need the
transcendent God.
-
00:28:15
I'm just asking God to
show up in those spots,
-
00:28:18
and I'm praying to
the same thing for you.
-
00:28:21
And after He took the bread,
Jesus grabbed the wine.
-
00:28:25
He took it a step further.
-
00:28:27
He said, "I know this
makes sense to you,
-
00:28:29
but you've got to trust
me. You've got to trust me.
-
00:28:31
I know you can't see
what's about to happen.
-
00:28:33
I know you don't know what's
going to happen tomorrow,
-
00:28:35
but I do.
-
00:28:37
I'm going to give
up My life for you.
-
00:28:38
I'm going to sacrifice
Myself for you."
-
00:28:40
He took the wine and He said,
-
00:28:42
"This is My blood shed for you,
-
00:28:45
when you gather together,
-
00:28:47
drink this in
remembrance of Me."
-
00:28:50
The thing you're holding,
the drink you're holding,
-
00:28:52
this is the blood of
Christ shed for you.
-
00:28:54
Drink it and remember His power.
-
00:29:14
God has power
that goes past you.
-
00:29:17
He has understanding
that goes past you.
-
00:29:20
And that power is for you.
-
00:29:24
Right now, we're going
to sing this song together
-
00:29:26
as an act of worship.
-
00:29:27
I encourage you to let
the video continue to play
-
00:29:30
and to sing with us.
-
00:29:31
The song is called
On, the Power,
-
00:29:34
and it's about the
transcendent God.
-
00:29:36
Let's sing together right now.
-
00:31:44
- I hope this is something
you found helpful today.
-
00:31:46
I definitely
encourage you to share this
-
00:31:48
with your friends who are
wrestling with deconstruction.
-
00:31:50
Again, if you have any
questions, you can email me.
-
00:31:52
We're not a TV show.
This is a community.
-
00:31:54
If you're looking for next
steps, we have a couple.
-
00:31:56
First is our World Changing
Summit on November 3rd.
-
00:31:59
And we have a Prayer
Night November 4th.
-
00:32:00
If either of those
interests you,
-
00:32:02
you can go to
online.crossroads.net for more.
-
00:32:05
I'll see you next
week on Crossroads.
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00:32:09
- My name is Alex, and I
own where we are right now,
-
00:32:12
Iron sharpens Iron Gym
here in Cincinnati, Ohio,
-
00:32:15
- And I'm Alison
-
00:32:16
and I've been coming to
Iron Sharpens Iron for 4 years.
-
00:32:19
- In 2015, I was
sitting in the room
-
00:32:22
at Oakley Crossroads and
they announced the food drive.
-
00:32:25
And I had the idea
that I want it to fill a box.
-
00:32:28
I didn't know if I
would be able to.
-
00:32:29
And then I had the
bigger idea of saying,
-
00:32:31
"Well, maybe people at the
gym would like to do that."
-
00:32:34
I remember standing in
the lobby mulling it over,
-
00:32:36
saying, "Okay, I think I
think we can fill five boxes."
-
00:32:39
It didn't turn out that
five was all that crazy
-
00:32:41
because we ended
up filling 20 boxes.
-
00:32:43
So fast forward a few years,
we wanted to do 75 boxes,
-
00:32:47
and that year we
went well over 100.
-
00:32:49
You know, just this past
year, our goal was 200 boxes,
-
00:32:53
and we ended up
filling 220 boxes.
-
00:32:56
And it shows me
that if we're willing to
-
00:32:59
just open up and invite,
God will bring people in
-
00:33:02
and fill the right people in
-
00:33:03
to help you achieve your goal.
-
00:33:05
And He'll probably
do what He does best
-
00:33:07
and blow you
away and go past it.
-
00:33:09
- I've been involved in the
Thanksgiving Food Drive
-
00:33:11
for quite some time now,
and I used to contribute
-
00:33:14
and take a box at service.
-
00:33:16
And sometimes in
my life I wasn't able
-
00:33:18
to fully contribute to
that box financially.
-
00:33:21
And when I start
coming to the gym
-
00:33:23
and I saw what Alex was doing,
-
00:33:25
I jumped right in on that.
-
00:33:27
I went to Aldi and
I had the intention
-
00:33:28
to fill two boxes.
-
00:33:31
And as I'm sitting
in the parking lot,
-
00:33:32
I had the idea to put it
out on my Instagram Story
-
00:33:36
to contribute $.45
for a canned good.
-
00:33:39
So I went in and
started shopping
-
00:33:40
and within a matter
of 30 minutes,
-
00:33:43
I had about $200 in the account
-
00:33:45
and this just snowballed
throughout the whole week.
-
00:33:48
And then we get to $1600
-
00:33:50
and that evening I get a
phone call and she was like,
-
00:33:54
"How much have you raised?"
-
00:33:55
And I was like,
"We're at $1600."
-
00:33:57
So she tells me on the phone
-
00:33:59
her and her husband
matched the funds.
-
00:34:00
By day three or so when
I could no longer shop
-
00:34:05
any more than I possibly
was already doing,
-
00:34:08
I reached out to my
Instagram followers again
-
00:34:11
and said, "Hey guys,
I need your help now
-
00:34:13
to get these canned goods
to Alex in a timely fashion."
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So I started what I was
calling shop and drops.
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I was allocating money
to groups of people
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doing all the shopping for me,
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and then we'd
meet here at the gym
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and drop everything off.
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- The gap is where
often I see God show up.
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So when we step out and we say,
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"I know that there's
no way I can do this,
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the only way it's going to
happen is if You show up,"
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that's where your faith grows.
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00:34:39
That's where your
community grows.
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00:34:41
And that's where
the story is told.
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00:34:43
- Thanksgiving Food
Drive is community for me,
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and it has been over
the last two years,
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getting together, seeing
how the community provides,
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00:34:53
and seeing what
we can do each year.
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00:34:56
And then on top of that,
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just blessing as many
families as possible.
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00:34:59
- CFD for me is a
chance to step out in faith
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and to put myself
a little bit lower
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on the list of priorities
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and put some other people
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a little bit higher than myself.