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Welcome to week two
of The Heroes Journey:
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Your Path to Greatness.
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Just like every
hero in every movie,
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every story ever must
face and overcome
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a villain in order
to get to greatness,
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you have to too.
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There's a villain
standing in your way
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and blocking your path
between you and greatness.
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Today, you're going
to unmask your villain.
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By the way, if you're a
giver, I want to say thank you.
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Your generosity makes
episodes like this possible
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and is literally changing
thousands of lives.
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Let's get started.
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- Welcome to The Heroes Journey
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where you will
discover your role
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in the most important mission.
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But there are four villains
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that are trying to
get in your way.
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Frankie Feelgood,
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Lieutenant Lucius Livid.
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Senator Selfie,
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Heinous Highness.
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All of these villains
can sabotage
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the full, joyful life
God wants for you.
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Today, hear from Brian,
Kyle, Leena, and Paco
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as they work together
to find the clues
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and unmask the villains
that want to destroy you.
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- Man, look at this place. Oh.
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- All right. Open it up.
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There's a letter
in here that says
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there are four villains
that try to steal from us
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on a heroic mission.
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- Your mission, if
you choose to accept it,
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will be to uncover
their true identity.
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- To get out of this house
and continue on your journey,
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you will need to work
together to crack the code.
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- And unmask the villains.
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You are Frankie Feelgood.
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Frankie is all about
immediate gratification,
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runs from pain, doesn't
like to face reality,
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considers pleasure
his greatest purpose?
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Hmm, tell you what,
I want to be great.
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I want to do world changing,
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life changing things for God.
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God is great, so
greatness is a good thing.
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The number one
issue that I run into
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in trying to be great,
well, spoiler alert,
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it's not the devil.
He's not that busy.
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It's not even my
weird neighbors.
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Oh, by the way, if you don't
have any weird neighbors,
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you're probably one
of the weird neighbors.
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The number one thing that
stops me from being great
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is my need to feel
good in the moment.
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Jim Collins says
it like this, says,
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good is the enemy of great.
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I might add that feeling
good is the enemy of great.
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And I think you're
watching this video right now
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because somewhere
deep inside of you
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you have a desire to do
something with your life,
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something great.
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You might even think
that God is designed you
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for great things long ago.
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And the number one
thing stopping you
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is what you want right now.
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We all want a life that matters,
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we all want a life of meaning,
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we all want a full life
with full relationships,
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with vibrant community around us
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and with impact and
service in the world.
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Heroic type stuff, but
here's the problem,
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most of our days, they
start a little bit different.
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We say we want
great relationships,
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but the first thing we
do when we wake up
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instead of saying I love
you to the people around us,
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we pick up the old phone
and scroll the news feed
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for that quick anxiety rush.
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We say we want
to have great energy
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to get through the day,
but what happens is
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we rush out the
house, we grab a donut
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or a sugary energy
drink or a coffee,
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and we hit traffic
on the way to work.
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We say we want to have
great networking relationships
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while at our job,
but what happens is
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we do our best to
keep our heads down
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and not not bring enough
attention to ourselves
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or not even try to
talk to our coworkers,
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do our best to not cuss out
the customers or our boss.
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And then it's time to come home.
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We numb a little bit more.
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We eat some junk, smoke
a little, we drink a little,
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we doom scroll
till we fall asleep.
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You see, this is Frankie
Feelgood's modus operandi,
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that you and I would
trade in what we really want
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for what we want right now.
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Frankie leaves us overstimulated
and under fulfilled.
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But the good news is, you and I,
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we can kick
Frankie in the teeth.
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We can beat Frankie Feelgood,
and I'm going to show you how.
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- Lucius Livid.
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Right here I've got a
card about Lucius Livid.
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It says is always
ready for a fight,
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anyone gets in his
way is an enemy,
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can't control his anger, lets
his emotions run the show.
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All right. You want the truth?
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I like to sleep and
not be woken up.
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I like to not be bothered,
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especially when
I don't want to be.
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And I like to be listened
to the very first time,
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and when I don't, when
these things don't happen,
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I get angry.
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In His abundant
wisdom, God chose
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to give me children, three
of them in three years.
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And from the
moment they arrived,
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it was abundantly clear that
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they weren't really
interested in the things
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that I liked, like sleeping,
not being bothered,
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and being listened
to the very first time,
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especially at bedtime,
when all I want for them to do
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is stay in your room.
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They don't seem to
care about that so much.
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Now, just to be clear,
when I put you to bed,
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I'm not suggesting
one of many things
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you could do with your evening.
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This isn't a cruise ship.
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We have lots of different
excursions for you
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to choose from at your leisure
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and enjoy whenever
you want, you picked.
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No, when I put you to bed,
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I am giving you an
explicit command.
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My word is law, and
my law is unbreakable,
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unless you're a tiny human being
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with a mind all your
own, in which case
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my law is about as
durable as IKEA furniture.
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It breaks super
easy, so there's that.
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Now the thing is, anger
stands in my path to greatness,
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Lieutenant Lucius Livid.
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And he's tricky
to defeat because
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there's a monster underneath
the mask he's wearing,
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and that's what
we have to get to.
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- You are, Senator Selfie.
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Senator Selfie? Okay,
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Senator Selfie is
completely absorbed,
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can't get out of her own head,
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strives for self-made success,
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views others'
successes as her failures,
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believes the grass
is always greener,
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and compares
herself to everyone.
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I don't know someone
like that, do you?
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Okay, actually, I think
I'm totally Senator Selfie.
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I am, I'm Senator Selfie.
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I just the other
day was spending
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all this time scrolling
through Instagram.
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And I wasn't scrolling
through Instagram
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because there was
something good to look at.
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I was looking at my own stuff.
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I was going back and
saying, "How did I look in that?
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What am I hair look
like? Did I look fat?
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Was that a better
picture than her picture?
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What about this? What about --"
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I was comparing myself
to every one. Gross.
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Okay, then I'm sitting
in a meeting this morning
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and we're talking
about something.
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I'm in a room with
completely capable,
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smart, wonderful people.
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And yet I'm thinking as
we're hearing new ideas
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and a plan we're
going to go after
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that I didn't have any say into.
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I'm thinking, "Well,
why didn't we?
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Well, couldn't we
have, shouldn't we?
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Did they think about this?
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Don't they know
that if we just did this,
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it would be so much better?"
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I actually have those
thoughts all the time,
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which I'm really not proud of.
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And honestly, I think I
deal with Senator Selfie
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more than anybody else because
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I often think that
I'm the greatest.
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Spoiler alert, I'm
not the greatest,
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and you're not
the greatest either.
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Jesus is the greatest.
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- You are Heinous Highness.
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Heinous Highness
is manipulative,
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absolutely loves drama,
wants to win at all costs,
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tells people what
they want to hear
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and will do whatever
it takes to be in control.
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In other words, sounds
like Heinous Highness
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is an average American.
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One of our great football
coaches in America,
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Vince Lombardi, he said,
"Show me a good loser
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and I'll show you a loser."
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We love to win at all times.
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We want to be on
the top at all times.
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If we're not on top, we
want to feel like we're on top.
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We basically want to be
king and we want to be queen.
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We will find our own data
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to reinforce
whatever we believe.
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We'll find our own voice
boxes or our own preachers
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or self-help gurus to tell
us what we need to hear,
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what we're about all
because we want to be on top.
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We want to feel like
we're a king or queen
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above everybody else.
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I struggle with this.
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I understand this
tension completely.
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I lead an organization
that exists with
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a lot of people who
are paid and unpaid.
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And often times
I'll be in a meeting
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and I'll feel that I
want my way to win.
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I shouldn't want my way to win.
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I should want the
best way to win.
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I'll feel like I
want to tap into
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my communication skills
when I'm in a meeting at work
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or when I'm with my
wife to win the argument,
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to be the high one,
to be the mighty one.
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The problem is this
is not very heroic.
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And if my journey is to
put crowns in my head,
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I won't be a hero
at all. I'll be a sham.
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No one would want
to be around me
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and I will not get closer to God
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and feel His
pleasure in my life.
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We have got to
take off our crowns
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to be on a rogue journey
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and slay the Heinous
Highness that's in all of us.
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- Frankie is beatable,
and how do we beat him?
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Well, I'm going to give
you some tips on how I do it.
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First thing I've got to
do is I got to find a plan.
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Zig Ziglar says that
if you aim for nothing,
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you will hit it
every single time.
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And here's a pro tip on plans:
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If your plan has the
word more or less in it,
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it's a bad plan.
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I want to work out more.
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More than who, The Rock?
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I want to drink. Less
than who, Gary Busey?
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You've got to be
specific in what you want,
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get as detailed in
his laser focused in
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on what you really want.
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Second thing I do
as I find some help,
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people like Alex and
Jonas and Xavier and Adam.
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These are guys that cheer me on
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and they hold me accountable
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when I'm deviating off
the course that I've set
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or the course that
God is set for me.
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They're cheering me on.
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You might be watching this
and being like,
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"Man, I wish I had somebody
to have my back like that.
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I wish I had somebody
who could help me like that."
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Well, good news,
we're here for you.
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The great news is people
throughout all generations
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who have walked this path
that God has set out for them,
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this path towards greatness,
they're also cheering us on.
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In Hebrews 12:1,
the writer talks about
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a great cloud of witnesses.
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The most important step in
beating Frankie Feelgood?
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You've got to find a mirror.
You see, mirrors don't lie.
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If you look in the mirror,
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the Mirror is going
to tell you the truth.
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And I know when some
of us look into a mirror,
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we don't like what we see.
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Maybe there's some shame
or some guilt or some regret.
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I'm not talking
about just physically.
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I'm talking about more
of the deeper things
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like I don't like the
way I'm treating people
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or I don't like a
person I'm becoming.
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But we've got to
do the hard work
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of looking in the mirror
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if we're really going
to defeat Frankie.
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And we've got to ask
the hard questions,
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so let's look in the
mirror together right now.
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Why are you so broke?
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Because you like buying
stuff you don't need.
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Why are you not as
healthy as you need to be?
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Because you like eating
stuff that's bad for you.
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Why can't you
kick that addiction?
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Oh, because you like
the temporary pleasure
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in the moment.
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Why are your relationships
always crumbling around you?
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Because you make every
relationship about you.
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Why is it so easy for us
to blame our problems
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on the devil and on liberals?
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Because it feels so good to
place blame somewhere else.
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The thing about
looking in the mirror,
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it might make us feel
weak in the moment,
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but let me tell you something,
where your weaknesses start,
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that's where God's
strength can show up.
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Where I'm weak, He
can be made strong.
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And when I look into the
mirror, I can look at myself,
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or I can see that the
very presence of God,
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Jesus Himself is closer to
me than I can even imagine.
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God doesn't run away when
we sees our weaknesses.
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God doesn't jump ship
when things go wrong with us.
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In fact, He's right
there with us.
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Hebrews 12:2 says this:
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God is going to do heroic
things in our lifetime,
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and He's going to use
people to make it happen.
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Question is, is He
going to use you,
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or are you going
to sell yourself short
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for what you want right now?
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You can do great
things in your life,
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and God is going to use
you and you can beat Frankie,
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but you've got to follow
in the footsteps of Jesus.
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- You know, the Avengers movie
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where mild mannered
Bruce Banner gets agitated
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and turns into this like raging
monster called the Hulk?
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That's what happens
to me at bedtime
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if you don't stay in your room.
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Now it happens for a reason.
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It's not because I'm angry.
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See, anger is just the
symptom above the surface.
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But if you want
to get past anger
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on your path to greatness,
you have to deal with
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what's below the
surface, the real monster.
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You have to unmask
Lieutenant Lucius Livid.
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And when you do,
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what you'll find
standing there is fear.
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Underneath every
angry outburst lies fear.
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Something you love, something
that's precious to you,
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something you depend
on is being threatened
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and it manifests
outward as anger.
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For me, there's one
reason I get mad at bedtime.
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It's because I
carry a lot of weight
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and responsibility in my life,
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probably more than I
should with my family,
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at work with dozens of
employees who depend on me,
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with a community of
thousands of people
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who I'm tasked with pastoring.
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And most days, if
I'm honest, it feels like
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I can barely keep up.
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I have just a tiny
bit of energy left
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at the end of
the day, that's it.
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I'm afraid if I don't get rest,
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you don't stay in your
room, if I don't sleep,
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tomorrow's going to be the day
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I don't have what it takes.
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The reason I'm angry is because
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I'm afraid I'm not enough.
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If you're somebody
who struggles with anger,
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the question you
need to ask yourself is:
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What is it that I'm afraid of?
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What is it that I hold dear
that's being threatened
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and I'm afraid of losing?
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If you can get to that,
you can deal with anger
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because all anger
sits on top of fear.
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And the Bible has
explicit instructions
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about how you
deal with the fear.
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It's not just try
not to be afraid.
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Just like the way you
defeat anger is not
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just try to be more patient.
Just try to be more kind.
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That will never, ever work.
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The way you defeat
the fear under your anger
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has one solution, it's love.
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1 John 4:18 says:
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There is no fear and love,
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but perfect love casts out fear.
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The antidote to the fear
that's driving your anger
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is love, perfect love.
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You know, the Bible
says in 1 Corinthians 13
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that love is patient and kind.
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If you lack patience,
if you lack kindness
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00:17:41
in your immediate,
instinctual responses,
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00:17:44
it's because you lack love.
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00:17:45
And here's what I
want you to understand,
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00:17:47
the solution is not now
just try to love people.
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00:17:50
No. You can't give
what you don't have.
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00:17:55
The solution is for
you to receive love,
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00:17:58
for you to be filled up.
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00:17:59
And there's one way
that that happens.
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00:18:01
Earlier in the book of 1
John Chapter 4:16, it says:
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00:18:06
and we have known and believed
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00:18:08
the love that God has for us.
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00:18:13
Listen, if you're angry,
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00:18:15
the thing you're
missing is love.
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00:18:18
And the only way to get
it is to work on knowing
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00:18:22
and believing the love
that God has for you,
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00:18:25
not people in general,
not your family,
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00:18:27
not your next door neighbor,
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00:18:28
not people who do
it all right, for you.
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00:18:32
1 John says that God is love.
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00:18:34
That means that God is patient.
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00:18:38
God is kind towards you.
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00:18:43
When you understand
this, when you can know
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00:18:46
in your mind and you
can believe in your heart
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00:18:50
that God loves you,
the anger fades away.
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00:18:54
Why?
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00:18:55
Because when there's
a God of the universe
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00:18:57
who controls everything
and He loves you,
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00:19:00
what's there to be afraid of?
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00:19:02
When that happens, the
anger gets snuffed right out.
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00:19:21
- Senator Selfie here.
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00:19:23
Okay, I'm not the greatest,
you're not the greatest.
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00:19:27
Jesus is the greatest.
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00:19:28
But it's OK to want
that sometimes.
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00:19:31
Jesus was hanging out
with his friends one day
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00:19:33
and for some reason
their mom was there.
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00:19:35
I don't know what was happening,
but she actually asked,
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00:19:38
"How do my kids
become the greatest?"
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00:19:41
And Jesus said,
"The Son of Man,"
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00:19:43
referring to Himself,
"didn't come to be served,
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00:19:47
but to serve others."
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00:19:48
What a roundabout way
to answer that question.
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00:19:51
But what He was
actually saying was
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00:19:53
the way you become the
greatest is you serve others.
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00:19:58
If I want to defeat
Senator Selfie
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00:20:00
and you want to
defeat Senator Selfie,
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00:20:02
the place we have to
start is by serving others.
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00:20:06
I often can feel like
I'm the main character.
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00:20:09
It's about me. It's
my life. It's my story.
-
00:20:12
But because I know
Jesus, I actually have to shift
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00:20:16
to believe that I'm a supporting
character in His story,
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00:20:20
that He's the greatest and
I get to support the greatest
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00:20:24
and I get to help others.
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00:20:26
I get to be support to
others, and in doing that,
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00:20:29
I can become great.
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00:20:30
That's true for me
and that's true for you.
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00:20:34
Our path to greatness,
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00:20:36
the way that we defeat
our pride, Senator Selfie,
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00:20:40
is to spend more time
focusing on others.
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00:20:44
There's actually a part
of the Bible in Philippians
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00:20:47
that says exactly this.
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00:20:49
Philippians 2:2-3 says this:
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00:21:09
We become great
teammates, we experience joy
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00:21:13
and we give joy
away when we fight
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00:21:16
the selfishness in us,
when we fight our pride
-
00:21:20
and we choose humility instead.
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00:21:22
Humility doesn't mean that
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00:21:23
we just think less
of ourselves like,
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00:21:25
"Oh, whoa is me.
I suck. I'm crappy."
-
00:21:27
No. Humility is just
thinking of ourselves less
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00:21:31
and putting others
ahead of ourselves,
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00:21:33
choosing to put
others thoughts, ideas,
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00:21:36
perspectives, needs, and
wants ahead of our own.
-
00:21:40
You might be Senator Selfie.
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00:21:42
The way that you defeat
Senator Selfie is you choose
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00:21:45
to be humble and support
other people before yourself.
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00:21:59
- To be great, to be heroic,
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00:22:05
Heinous Highness
must be defeated.
-
00:22:07
And how do you defeat
Heinous Highness?
-
00:22:09
It's not by physical might,
it's by spiritual power.
-
00:22:13
It's the role of humility.
-
00:22:16
Humility is when you lower
yourself underneath somebody.
-
00:22:20
Instead of exalting yourself
-
00:22:22
and putting your crown on,
thinking how great you are
-
00:22:24
and telling everybody
how great you are,
-
00:22:26
you intentionally take it
off, you lower yourself.
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00:22:29
This is what Jesus did.
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00:22:31
Book of Philippians
Chapter 2 tells us
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00:22:33
that Jesus humbled Himself,
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00:22:35
becoming obedient
to the point of death,
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00:22:38
even death on a cross.
-
00:22:39
He spreads out his arms
on a cross and He dies for us.
-
00:22:44
And the crazy thing is, in
the grand scheme of eternity,
-
00:22:47
He actually gets exalted
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00:22:49
and God gives him a
name above every name.
-
00:22:51
He defeats His own desires
to be known in His lifetime
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00:22:56
in order to be known by God
-
00:22:57
and rewarded by God forever.
-
00:23:01
One of the books in the
Bible that talks about forever
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00:23:03
is the Book of Revelation 4:10.
-
00:23:06
It has these people
who are known as elders,
-
00:23:09
there's 24 of them.
-
00:23:10
We don't really know
exactly who these people are.
-
00:23:13
Why is there 24 of them?
-
00:23:15
We don't know
exactly, but we do know
-
00:23:17
what these people
do, that they are great
-
00:23:20
and they are heroic.
-
00:23:22
And why and how?
-
00:23:24
Because they're humble enough
-
00:23:26
to take off their own crowns,
-
00:23:27
whatever their own
personal kingdom is,
-
00:23:29
whatever their business is,
whatever their family is,
-
00:23:31
whatever their successes are,
they take off their crowns
-
00:23:33
and they cast them
at the feet of Jesus.
-
00:23:36
That's the ultimate humility,
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00:23:39
throwing your accomplishments
and your view of yourself
-
00:23:43
as low as it will
go on the ground
-
00:23:45
and they say worthy,
worthy is the Lamb.
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00:23:49
Worthy is God.
-
00:23:51
I'll tell you what, you
come to a place of humility,
-
00:23:55
you put your crown on a shelf,
-
00:23:57
you cast your crown beneath God,
-
00:23:59
you are not just
going to be heroic,
-
00:24:03
you're going to be great
-
00:24:05
and people are going
to be thankful for you
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00:24:08
in the grand
scheme of your life.
-
00:24:22
- Kyle?
- Yes. Yes!
-
00:24:25
- What?
-
00:24:27
- Hey. Hi.
- What are you doing?
-
00:24:29
- The whole Journey,
do you see it?
-
00:24:30
I saw The Journey:
The Path to Greatness.
-
00:24:33
This is it.
-
00:24:34
I guess it didn't connect
these two parts though.
-
00:24:36
- Kyle, we don't see it.
-
00:24:37
- Dude, no, it's there.
-
00:24:39
- How long have
you been down here?
-
00:24:41
- I don't know,
like, at least --
-
00:24:43
I could see the
moon and it came,
-
00:24:44
and then it went, and
then it came again.
-
00:24:46
So I think anyway,
the point is, it's solved,
-
00:24:49
except for I just
got to put those up.
-
00:24:51
You guys want to help me?
- This is my guy.
-
00:24:52
- What do you
mean it's your guy?
-
00:24:54
- I got -- I got this
guy. This is my villain.
-
00:24:56
- Oh, you got one, too.
-
00:24:58
- This is my villian,
Frankie Feelgood, man.
-
00:25:00
He wants us to be
immediately gratified.
-
00:25:02
He wants us to trade
in what we really want
-
00:25:03
for what we want right now.
-
00:25:04
I figured out
how to unmask him.
-
00:25:06
I figured out how to beat him.
- What'd you say?
-
00:25:08
- So I said the way
you unmask him
-
00:25:09
is you follow Jesus's footsteps.
-
00:25:12
- That's -- yes, that's
great. Write that down.
-
00:25:15
So many F's in that, just
like just like the F here.
-
00:25:18
This is so great.
- Maybe that's a clue.
-
00:25:19
- What what do you
mean? For the box?
-
00:25:22
- Yeah.
- There's the whole time.
-
00:25:24
- Do we -- do you want
to try to give to others?
-
00:25:26
- Yeah.
- Know this guy with the teeth.
-
00:25:28
- Yes. Yeah, that was my guy.
-
00:25:30
That was that was
Livid, Lucius L.T.
-
00:25:33
This guy's all
about anger, right?
-
00:25:36
And the thing
about anger is that
-
00:25:38
it's just the thing visible
above the surface.
-
00:25:40
But if you unmask him, what
you find underneath is fear.
-
00:25:43
- Hmm.
-
00:25:44
- And so I talked about
the way to defeat fear
-
00:25:46
is 1 John, Who knows it?
-
00:25:50
- Perfect love.
- Yes, perfect love.
-
00:25:51
That's what I said.
There it is: cast out fear.
-
00:25:53
- Put him up there.
-
00:25:54
Do you want to hold
my magnifying glass?
-
00:25:56
- I would love to.
-
00:25:57
- It's great. Perfect
love starts with a I too.
-
00:25:59
Who did you have?
-
00:26:01
- I had Selfie.
I had Senator Selfie.
-
00:26:05
- Senator Selfie?
- Senator Selfie.
-
00:26:07
- How do you unmask her?
-
00:26:08
- Okay, so I think the way
to unmask Senator Selfie
-
00:26:13
is to take the attention
off of ourselves
-
00:26:18
and support others.
-
00:26:20
So here she is.
- Here I got you.
-
00:26:23
- Support others, exclamation.
- That's great. Love it.
-
00:26:31
- Well, there's
one more left and,
-
00:26:33
by the way, where's Brian?
-
00:26:34
- I don't -- I thought
he was with you guys.
-
00:26:36
- I thought he was
with you down here.
-
00:26:38
(lullaby music)
-
00:26:48
- There's one more
left, Heinous Highness.
-
00:26:51
I've got to imagine
Brian is this person.
-
00:26:53
Heinous?
-
00:26:54
- Yeah, what do you
think Brian said about it?
-
00:26:56
- You know, well,
if her profile is
-
00:26:58
she's manipulative, loves drama,
-
00:26:59
wants to win at
all costs, I bet you
-
00:27:01
there's something in
there about humility.
-
00:27:03
- Oh, yeah. It
starts with an H too.
-
00:27:04
- Yeah. Oh, we have a pattern.
-
00:27:07
- There is something
happening here.
-
00:27:09
- We've got Freddie Feelgood, F.
-
00:27:11
You defeated by following
Lieutenant Lucius Livid.
-
00:27:15
You defeat the I with
love, S with support,
-
00:27:19
H with humility. Oh my goodness.
-
00:27:22
FLSH.
-
00:27:23
FLSH is obviously FLSH.
-
00:27:27
- Flesh.
-
00:27:28
- Flesh, that's
what I meant. Flesh.
-
00:27:30
- Let's retry it.
-
00:27:31
- One, two, three, flesh.
-
00:27:33
- I actually meant
try it on the wall,
-
00:27:35
but we can also just say it.
-
00:27:37
- I thought we were
making a group cheer.
-
00:27:39
That's okay, if we're not
at that relationship level
-
00:27:42
with each other, we
don't have a group cheer.
-
00:27:44
- We've got to get
out of this house,
-
00:27:46
sooner rather later.
-
00:27:47
Let's go to the lock.
Go to the box.
-
00:27:49
(all talking at once)
-
00:27:51
- Try it: F-L-S-H, put it
in there. See if it opens.
-
00:27:56
I bet there's treasure
or something awesome.
-
00:27:58
I don't even know, maybe some --
-
00:28:00
Actually, I could use a snack.
-
00:28:01
I've been here for a long time,
-
00:28:02
so hopefully something
edible. I don't know.
-
00:28:07
What is it?
-
00:28:10
- It's a key. - A key.
-
00:28:12
- A key. What do we do with it?
-
00:28:14
- I don't try to get out.
- Let's get out of here.
-
00:28:16
- I'm done. We solved
this thing. We could be --
-
00:28:18
We're leaving.
-
00:28:20
- Brian, see ya.
- See ya.
-
00:28:28
- Hey, hey. Anyone out there?
-
00:28:32
Where are you guys? Hey.
-
00:28:41
- One of the villains
stood out to you,
-
00:28:43
but the experience
of unmasking them
-
00:28:45
and understanding
them at a deeper level
-
00:28:47
has only just begun.
-
00:28:48
This week in your individual
work and in your group,
-
00:28:51
you're going to be discovering
more about the villain,
-
00:28:53
how it's blocked your path
and how God has a path
-
00:28:55
and a way for you to
get through that villain
-
00:28:58
to a life of greatness.
-
00:29:00
By the way, you need the
Crossroads app your group.
-
00:29:02
Don't forget that it's free
wherever you get your app.
-
00:29:04
It's chock full of not only
The Journey experience,
-
00:29:06
but a lot of other
really helpful resources.
-
00:29:08
And if you're watching this,
-
00:29:10
"Like what's all
this Journey stuff?
-
00:29:12
I'm so confused, Kyle,
I don't understand."
-
00:29:13
Don't worry, we have your back.
-
00:29:15
Just go to online.crossroads.net
and chat with us.
-
00:29:18
We'd love to answer any
questions, get you connected,
-
00:29:20
or help you with anything
you need in your life.
-
00:29:23
Thanks for joining us today.
-
00:29:25
We'll see you next
time for episode three.
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00:29:55
- Hi, I am Stephanie Byerly.
-
00:29:56
- And I'm Robert Byerly,
-
00:29:58
and we live in Newport
Beach, California.
-
00:30:00
I think we started
going to Crossroads
-
00:30:02
before we moved
to Cincinnati in 2003.
-
00:30:05
- The first Journey
that we were part of
-
00:30:06
was the Consumed Journey.
-
00:30:08
That was the first time
-
00:30:09
that it's a really
been explained to us
-
00:30:11
that everything we own is God's.
-
00:30:16
So I think that was
where our story started
-
00:30:19
with becoming more
generous and really asking God
-
00:30:23
to use us in a greater way
-
00:30:24
- The different campaigns,
-
00:30:26
The Game Change, it changed us.
-
00:30:28
One, I think the
accountability piece of it
-
00:30:31
that consistently giving
every week out of generosity
-
00:30:35
and love and then
seeing the things
-
00:30:38
that Crossroads was
doing and growing,
-
00:30:43
investing in people,
investing in trips,
-
00:30:45
investing in the
local community,
-
00:30:46
and investing in other
communities around the world.
-
00:30:49
You feel like you
were a part of a team
-
00:30:51
and something big.
-
00:30:52
Then you could see the
blessings that would happen
-
00:30:54
in your life from
that generosity too
-
00:30:56
and how it sort of
changed your heart.
-
00:30:58
And then you just
want to give more,
-
00:31:00
whether it was giving
your time, your talents,
-
00:31:02
your finances, whatever it was.
-
00:31:04
- We just live in more
freedom because I think
-
00:31:07
we know that everything
we own is really God's.
-
00:31:12
And so I think when
it comes to parenting
-
00:31:15
or our marriage or
whatever, it looks like
-
00:31:16
there's a freedom
there to press into
-
00:31:20
what God has for us.
-
00:31:21
It changes the way we live,
-
00:31:24
not just living for ourselves,
-
00:31:25
but serving each other and love.
-
00:31:27
- I believe it's God, right?
-
00:31:28
I mean, God's working on that
-
00:31:30
and a place like Crossroads,
it's given a place for us
-
00:31:33
to learn about different things,
-
00:31:36
let God sort of chip
away at our selfishness.
-
00:31:39
- Yes.
-
00:31:40
- Bring a place where
your kids can thrive,
-
00:31:42
or we can thrive as
husband and wife,
-
00:31:44
and family in
that type of thing.
-
00:31:46
Yeah, that's been awesome.
-
00:31:48
- Yeah.